Old age is a complicated stage full of changes and losses. Remember that, now more than ever, your parents need your understanding..
Reaching an advanced age can give vertigo because of the large number of changes it entails. Your social status is modified, your routines and activities change dramatically, and you may feel lost. It is in these moments of need when helping your parents becomes a way to give them back a little of all that love they gave you.
Our parents. Those people who gave us life and saw us grow. Those who accompanied our first steps and heard our first words. Who celebrated our successes and dried our tears. Teachers, friends, essential companions of the path of life. We owe them who we are.
When our parent’s age, it is common for us not to realize their needs. After all, we are adults; we have our own lives, habits, and obligations. However, we must put ourselves, for a second, on their skin and remember that they also need us.
How to help your parents when they get older?
Understanding and patience
These two elements are fundamental when we face the aging of our loved ones. Senior citizens are a complicated stage. When we stop working, our social status declines: society ceases to consider us an active member and relegates us in a certain way. People with whom we used to work or do business no longer come to us for opinion. It seems that we no longer have anything to contribute.
Our daily routines change, our activities are reduced, and we may lose much of our social circle. On the other hand, our health begins to falter. We are no longer so agile; we do not have such good eyesight and hearing. We begin to suffer small pains or aches that make it difficult for us every day.
It is very likely that, sooner or later, we cannot adequately fend for ourselves. And this is not easy to accept. Assimilating so many losses is confusing and frustrating, and we may feel sad, angry, and alone.
That is why it is important that, as children, we can put ourselves in the shoes of our parents. That we understand the transition, they are facing and be tolerant of their complaints, their bad mood, or their health difficulties.
Social and emotional ties are an essential part of mental health and happiness. They protect us against stress and help us face and overcome diseases. They also increase our self-esteem and our perception of personal worth. Old age is a delicate stage in which human contact becomes more necessary than ever.
If your parents still live independently, try to maintain contact. Call them regularly, ask them how your day was, and share your own anecdotes. Do not hesitate to visit them frequently and include them in some of the plans you make. Especially if you have children, foster a close relationship with your grandparents, because the bond that is created is very enriching for both.
Likewise, if your parents live in your home because they can no longer stand independently, do not lose your warmth. That living together is not an excuse to argue for trivialities, who do not feel that they are a burden. On the contrary, welcome them to your home and try to enjoy their company. Make them participants in the daily life of the house that will help them feel useful and integrated into the family premises.
Your parents may need help due to their health problems. They are likely to go to a nursing home. Without going so far, it is common for the elderly to go through economic straits and require the support of their children. Try to help them as much as possible, as they helped you when you needed it.
Enjoy helping your parents
Finally, never forget the bond so deep that it binds you to them. Do not forget that beyond the changes in your mood or your mobility difficulties, you are still your parents. People who love you unconditionally. Remember every day to have a patient and positive attitude, try to enjoy every second by your side, and continue learning from them. Being able to hug your parents today is a gift, enjoy it.